How to support to your child in the buildup to exam results. 

One of the most significant milestones in your child's teenage years is exam results day.  

It can be a time of heightened emotions and stress, with both you and your child experiencing a mix of excitement and anxiety and knowing what to say in the buildup to results day can be tricky. 

Here are our tips on how you can provide exam support to your child as results day gets closer: 

Check in on their feelings. 

As results day approaches, your child may experience a range of emotions. Take the time to check in with them regularly and ask how they are feeling about everything. Let them know their feelings are valid. Being understanding and empathetic, helps to create an environment where your child feels comfortable expressing their concerns and worries. 

Create a safe space for open communication 

During this period, it's important your child knows that they can talk about their feelings – if they want to - without worrying about being judged. 

Some children feel the need to offload their thoughts, while others might need more time to process their emotions. Reassure them that whenever they are ready to talk, you will be there to listen and support them. 

Keep an eye on their sense of self-worth 

Many students put a huge amount of pressure on themselves to perform well in exams. Pay attention to how they talk about themselves. If they tend to be overly self-critical or show signs of low self-esteem, gently encourage them to challenge these negative thoughts. Remind them that exam results do not define their worth as an individual and that you are proud of them and love them whatever happens. 

Encourage them to practise positive self-talk. 

Help them come up with phrases such as, 'I did my best, and that's enough,' or 'I am proud of the effort I put into my studies.' These phrases, or affirmations, are important reminders that they are capable and deserving, irrespective of the exam outcome. 

Ultimately, the most important thing you can do is ensure your child knows that your love and support are not dependent on their exam results. Reiterate that you are proud of their hard work and dedication, regardless of the grades they achieve. Let them know that you are there to support and celebrate their accomplishments, big or small.