So, we’ve made it past the half-way point…
How are you all holding up? We hope you’re making the most of your family time and absolutely counting all of the small wins. This week we are focusing on CHALLENGES. More specifically, overcoming them.
‘Look at a day when you are supremely satisfied at the end. It’s not a day when you lounge around doing nothing; it’s a day you’ve had everything to do, and you’ve done it.’ – Margaret Thatcher
Maggie may well be right, but more often than not when you face one, two, three, seven days like that in a row it all becomes rather daunting, doesn’t it? It’s very easy for ‘being busy’ to spiral into being and feeling out of control – something which it can be challenging to get a hold of again.
Being aware of what we actually have control over, and coming to terms with that, can help us to manage our own thoughts, feelings, and our reactions to things that our outside of that control.
In our line of work, we can adapt this into a very effective tool that we call ‘The Circle of Control’.
From Covey’s book ‘The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People’, while very simple, it’s very effective and something you can do at home using just paper and pen. Look at the world around you, it can be broken down into just two factors – things we can control and things we can’t. Using your pen draw one big circle and draw another circle in the middle. Look at the circle in the middle as your life, here you can write down everything you have control over – such as my thoughts, my emotions, my effort, my actions, my words, my time, my behaviour. Outside of this inner circle is the wider world, or al the things you can’t control, add your own external influences – such as other people’s actions, how other people react, other people’s mistakes.
Making a clear distinction between what we can and can’t control gives us a clear focus for our energy and time. It won’t always be possible to be that cut and dry, we’re only human after all, but be conscious of the amount of time we spend on each circle will only help – we have to interact with other people and communities on a daily basis, it’s important to pay attention to which circle we choose to spend our time.