Give yourselves a huge pat on the back… we’ve made it.
The last week of the summer holidays is upon us, the school run will soon be beckoning and so will the sense and stability of a little more routine. Whether you’ve had a blast at home with the kids, or have struggled internally or outwardly, you’ve survived and that’s what counts.
So, to round off the last six weeks we thought it was appropriate to talk about positivity and mindfulness. The two go hand-in-hand and can have such an impact on our mental health. When it comes to positivity, we are talking about positive thinking. Not only can it reduce stress, help with stress management, and improve your overall health but positive thinking can also have a huge impact on our self-esteem.
Over the past few months, we have really been seeing a rise in the number of clients coming to us with body image issues, and that’s clients of all ages. Self-talk, and positive self-thought, is something we should all be doing more of.
Do you take notice of how you talk to yourself, and what you say for that matter? Everything you say to yourself, would you say it to a friend? And be happy doing so? If not, then why do you think it’s ok to say it to yourself?
Self-talk – or the never-ending stream of unspoken thoughts that run through our heads – is often where positive thinking starts. These thoughts are automatically positive or negative, without us even thinking about it. And while some comes from logic and reason, much also comes from misconceptions we create ourselves.
Learning how to deal with the thoughts that aren’t related to logic or reason takes some practise – but turning negative thoughts into positive ones is very doable. It just takes practise; you are building a new habit after all.
Identify areas of change – If thinking positively is something you want to do more of, you need to look at the areas of your life you usually think negatively about. Whether that’s work, family life or a relationship.
Check-in on yourself – Throughout the day stop and check-in on what your thoughts are doing. Keep an eye on that positive spin.
Be open to a giggle – Remind yourself that not only are you allowed to laugh, but more often than not it’ll do you the world of good. Find humour on those everyday things, try, and laugh at life, especially when you feel stressed.
Tap into a healthy lifestyle – Try and aim for 30-minutes of activity on most days of the week, but if that seems unachievable even breaking it up into three 10-minute chunks works just as well. Exercise will not only release endorphins, but it can also reduce stress and improve your mood. A healthy diet too will fuel your body and mind effectively.
Make your people, positive people – Who are your cheerleaders? Do the people you surround yourself with build you up, or tear you down? Or perhaps they do neither but assist you in staying very much in the middle of the road. Find yourself a tribe that has your back, that is there for you in the good times and the bad.
Continue positive self-talk – Try to follow one simple rule – don’t say anything to yourself that you wouldn’t say to anyone else. Be gentle, give yourself time and encouragement. When a negative thought enters your mind, evaluate it rationally and respond with positive affirmations. Think about what you are thankful for.
Some examples of how to turn a negative into a positive:
- I’ve never done it before > This is an opportunity to learn something new
- There’s no way it will work > I can make it work
- I’m not going to get any better at this > I’ll give it another try
- It’s too radical a change > Let’s take a chance